Safe Communication

One of the main goals of our brain is to help us survive, with that goal in mind we  develop coping strategies and defences, these ways of 'surviving' get stored in our lower brain and become automatic unconscious circuitry. The lower brain (limbic and reptilian or primal) as it is sometimes called,  stores all our emotional memory,..these emotional memories get 'triggered' by events and  other people, or even by our own thinking... it is this triggering of emotional memory that causes a lot of conflict in relationships. There are brain based tools that  we can use to help us 'bump up' our brain state, if we are feeling a little bit stressed we are likely in brain state 3 (see diagram) If we feel very  stressed it's likely we are in brain state 4, in brain state 5 we are extremely stressed..(Our survival circuits are stored in brain states 4-5) survival circuits are encoded at a young age, and can be rewired with practise. There are different...

Safe  Communication or 'Mindful Communication'  is a set of relational tools that help couples, groups and  individuals to  communicate successfully, it has the ability to transform conflict into connection. Aspects Of Safe Communication Include.... Listening reflectively without judgement Talking without being critical or judgemental Being genuinely curious  about the other person's point of view (especially when it is different to our own) Taking turns to be the listener  then the talker Being  aware of our internal reactions to others Taking responsibility for our feelings, thoughts  and behaviour Why Is The Structure Of Safe Communication So Effective? One of the main advantages of using Safe Communication is that it helps us to be present  to the other person, this is necessary for the other person to feel really seen safe  and heard. When we are listening to another person and they are talking about how they feel, they are ...