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A Brain Training Tool For Moderate Stress

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The brain has 5 different states ranging from 1-5, when when we  are in brain state 3 we are in moderate stress,.. brain states 1 and 2 are where we are at our best. As the brain state descends we feel more stressed. If you are really stressed you may be at brain state 4 or 5, we use a slightly different brain training tool in that case Firstly, check-in with yourself to see which brain state you are in..if you are feeling moderate s tress, then try this exercise. Complete each of these sentences, it doesn't have to be on the same topic, each feeling can be about something different, keep it short, no long sentences, you can either write it down or do it inside your head, writing it down is a bit more effective. I feel angry that- I feel sad that- I feel scared that- I feel guilty that- Then the opposites I feel grateful that- I feel happy that- I feel secure that- I feel proud that- After completing these sentences take a deep breath, and see if you feel better. (If all your sente...
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Does Your Partner Feel Safe Talking To You?

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Knowing how to communicate with our partner in a way that makes them feel safe to talk is a skill, being willing to learn  that skill  takes courage.  Why is it important that our partner feels safe to talk to us? If our partner doesn't feel safe to talk openly  then there will be anxiety,..feeling anxious creates stress, when we are stressed we are in our lower brain,  (brain states 3-5) we cannot communicate effectively from there. When we use Safe Communication it creates safety in the relationship, we communicate from our higher brain, (neocortex) from here we can create win/wins and have empathy for each other. Safe Communication is good for our overall health as it keeps us out of the stress response, it also helps us create loving safe relationships that contribute to our wellbeing. To find out more you can contact me at solutionbraintraining@gmail.com  Tel.07944921130 Online coaching in the Safe Communication tools for couples
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Brain Areas Connected To Effective Communication

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Safe  Communication  is a set of relational tools that help couples, groups and  individuals to  communicate successfully, it has the ability to transform conflict into connection. Aspects Of Safe Communication Include.... Listening reflectively without judgement Talking without being critical or judgemental Being genuinely curious  about the other person's point of view (especially when it is different to our own) Taking turns to be the listener  then the talker Being  aware of our internal reactions to others Taking responsibility for our feelings, thoughts  and behaviour Why Is The Structure Of Safe Communication So Effective? One of the main advantages of using Safe Communication is that it helps us to be present  to the other person, this is necessary for the other person to feel really seen safe  and heard. When we are listening to another person and they are talking about how they feel, ..its important to acknowledge the p...
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Why Using "Safe Communication" Transforms Relationships

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Relationships with other people (especially our partner,)  can be a great source of inspiration, comfort and connection, conversely, they can also  be a trigger for frustration and pain... How Can Safe Communication Help? Safe Communication is a way of  talking and listenening  so that both people feel safe to express themselves without fear of being judged or criticised. Safe Communication creates win/wins rather than win/lose scenarios Safe Communication Promotes Brain Health When we use the Safe Communication tools it activates our higher brain (neocortex)..it is in this brain area where we create  new ideas, forge connection and feel safe. Communication Breaks Down When We Are Under The Influence Of Lower Brain States The Lower brain areas are where we feel the effects of stress..(limbic and primal brain) Safe Communication makes it possible to raise our brain state so that we can communicate effectively. How Does Safe Communication Improve Wellb...
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Make A Distinction Between Events In Reality And How Those Events Occur For You

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What Determines How Events Affect Us?  In general, our emotional reactions are influenced by the  meaning  that we attach to events in our lives. We often don't have control over external events, , but we do have control over what meaning we are going to give to a certain event. If we allow our subconscious  mind to choose the meaning of things, it will leave us feeling negative and disempowered. Our subconscious mind seeks to protect us, and automatically chooses the most negative meaning, this causes negative feelings such as feeling stuck, powerless, or angry. When we choose the meaning of things consciously, we feel more empowered and positive.  Choosing the meaning of things consciously helps us to dismantle unhelpful patterns such as feeling overwhelmed, stressed or anxious. When we make a distinction between an event and how that event occurs for us, we can change how we feel about it. Example Jenny was walking down the street, she saw an ...
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